“I never lose. I either win or learn.” - Nelson Mandela.

I am friends with many people who continuously open their hearts and share, not only in a quest for personal growth, but to help others in similar situations. This willingness to be vulnerable sometimes results in others taking advantage of their goodness, and can cause one to be wary of continuing to put their gifts into the world, fearing it might happen again. 

Boundaries are often seen as fear based, but in the end they are really an act of courage, self love, and preservation. They allow us to keep going. Sometimes something happens which requires them to be built tall and wide and I think that’s ok, because as we continue to learn, we can also continue to reset them, until they finally settle into the place that is right for us. They should be guiltless.